My very favorite blog in the whole entire world is Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project.
In the interest of full disclosure, Gretchen is my writing partner’s sister. In the interest of full full disclosure, if she weren’t WP’s sister I would still read her blog every day. I love it. I actually believe it has changed my life for the better in some very concrete ways. For one thing, I now know that I am a satisficer. What’s a satisficer, you ask? If you want an actual definition, go check out The Happiness Project. My to-sum-up version is basically this: There are two kinds of people, satisficers and maximizers. Maximizers do tons of research and gather tons of information before they make decisions and then often regret the decision they make. Satisficers gather information too, but reach a now-I-know-enough stage and make a seemingly quick decision that they are then happy with forever more. That’s me to a tee. (Except when it comes to my iPhone. I have the second incarnation, and I love it less and less. Can’t type on it. Annoying. But I digress.)
So I suspect that’s how I will be with this whole having/adopting a child process. I will analyze and mull and think and re-think—and then, probably when I seem farthest away from making a decision, one day everything will fall into place in my head and I’ll move very quickly. And since I’m a satisficer, I can be fairly sure that I’ll be happy with my decision, and that once all the angst is done, I’ll just be a happy mom.
A happy working mom with three dogs and a house and a car and… Yikes. In the paraphrased words of Katherine Hepburn, “I don’t need a husband, I need a wife.”
Are you a satisficer or a maximizer? If you’re a parent, does being a satisficer or maximizer impact your approach to parenting?
And seriously. Check out The Happiness Project. It’s better than Prozac.