"Honestly? I can't handle any more stress in my life. So I'm just going to do this on my own."
I love "Glee." I love the songs. I love the crazy, silly plots. I love the archetypal characters. I love that despite the crazy, silly plots and the archetypal characters, "Glee" very often makes me cry.
I also love that, every now and then, "Glee" offers real nuggets o' wisdom like the one above.
As someone planning to become a single mom, I think a lot about support systems. It's something that many women in my position obsess about endlessly as they try to decide if having a baby on their own is something they can handle.
And once single women have a child, the quest for a solid support system seems to become something of a mission, if not an imperative.
What can get lost in the "building a support system" discussion is that sometimes, it really is easier, and less stressful, to just handle something on your own.
Personally, I don't like asking for help, and other people... well, I don't tend to trust them much. So I tend to lean heavily toward "do this on my own."
But, occasionally, asking for and receiving help can be transformative. Right now, for example, my dad and step-mom are taking care of my dog, Daisy. If they hadn't been willing to take her in after she and Chloe got in their enormous debacle of a fight, I honestly don't know what I would have done. And the difference in my overall stress level, now that I'm not in the middle of warring dog-factions, is massive.
Is that problem solved? Not by a long shot. But, for now, all is well. And a solution will, hopefully sooner rather than later, present itself. And when the solution appears, I'll handle it. Maybe with help, maybe not.
Which is, perhaps, the key. Some things can be handled by you and you alone, and some things can't. It's a matter of weighing the options-- will you be less stressed if you do something yourself, or will you be less stressed if you bring in extra hands?
If I ever figure out the proper balance between those two options, I'll let you know. And then I'll write a book and make a billion dollars.
In the meantime, I'll be muddling through. And watching "Glee."
I also love "Modern Family." If you're not watching it, you must start. Every episode makes me laugh out loud and cry. And, as Dolly Parton says, there's nothing better than laughter through tears.
Couldn't get WP on video today, but I'll try again tomorrow...