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Here's my problem. I think I'm a satisficer until the decision is made. But then I'm NOT satisfied and realize too late I'm a maximizer. This happens over and over. Being pregant at the moment, I have no doubt this means I'll go out and buy all kinds of stuff without doing proper research, then lay awake at night thinking about my regrets...

Is there a definition for someone who does tons of research, becomes too overwhelmed to make the decision, has someone else make the decision, and then is perfectly happy? Or who finally pulls the trigger because she can't stand to think about it anymore, and then is happy and can't figure out why there was so much drama associated with the decision?

Completely the opposite with parenting, now that the children are here. Whatever saves me time, makes my life easier, pleases the kids... I'm down with it. Immediately. Probably should do more research.

I think I'm a satisficer, but I do focus groups. I drive my friends crazy, I research, talked it out, look some more and then do it... At least that was with this house. I knew what I could afford, wanted, neighborhood.. and looked and looked and looked some more.. I found it and made a decision quickly.. even when my friends were ""Are you crazy?", Now they agree with me.

One thing that I do ask is "Would I be happy if I didn't do it?" That answer guides me.

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    • L.A. 2009. I’m stuck in traffic on the 101 freeway, listening to Isabella Rosselini on NPR. Isabella, for some reason, mentions that starfish are one of those rare species that can reproduce asexually, and I realize that if I could do that, I wouldn't have to worry about finding a boyfriend/husband. I wouldn’t have to internet date! I wouldn't have to figure out if I want to/can/should have a baby/adopt a baby/child on my own. I wouldn't have to stress about things like FSH levels, or weigh my feelings on in vitro versus adoption. I would just have a baby. Thus began my starfish envy.
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