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I think I will need to do the same thing, I've been thinking about it for more than a year now, only started sharing it with close friends about 6 months ago, with other friends since the last 3 months or so, I told my sister about it 2 months ago but it's only when I will tell my parents (of all people) that it will be real and I will be strong enough to actually go ahead with it.

Congrats! Talking about something you want to do is really a step on the way to actually doing it.

Woohoo! Good for you! It IS scary when separate worlds collide, though, isn’t it? It’s like when the financial services clients I have find out I’m a Democrat (I truly try to avoid having that conversation – it’s so painful for both of us. I’ve actually had one whine, “No, say it isn’t true…you’re not one of those?!” and be completely serious). Or when work people find out I’m a fiction writer and then want to know WHAT I write about, which is always so awkward and personal. It could be worse, though—I could have to confess that I’m like my little cousin S., who grew up to make porn. Ok, so she creates erotic and fashion photography. But sometimes I look at my innocent little daughter, remember when my cousin looked just as innocent, and sternly say, “Don’t grow up to make porn!” (Not that there’s anything wrong with porn—I was just kinda hoping my kid would be President or cure cancer or something mundane like that. Y’know?)

Anyway, I think being able to bring your inner reality into the open and have it interact with your professional reality is an important step toward living an integrated life (isn’t that what we’re aiming for? I’m a little rusty on my Freud). I’m still working on it, myself -- at the beginning of this summer, I was feeling so confused and miserable that I was ready to consider ANYTHING to feel better, and on a whim, I took a tv writing class (…this is where our two storylines meet). I kept it a secret from my friends and family -- except my very forbearing chief confidant/husband -- because I wasn’t even sure how I felt about it, so I definitely didn’t want THEIR opinions. ’Cause no one wants to be exposed where they’re vulnerable. You probably didn’t want to bring up the topic of insemination until you’d done enough research to have tip-of-the-tongue answers for people’s nosy or potentially unsupportive questions. And now that you’ve gotten past the first scary interaction, and you’re ready to amend the (metaphorical) business cards you present to the world: Sarah Fain, Writer/Executive Producer, Blogger, Future Starfish-Style Mom.

So far, no one’s fainted or nostril-squirted milk in horror in either of our worlds. So that’s something. :-)

I believe I'm the family member to whom you refer. Congratulations on the first (gigantic) step in the process. It took me years to get my head around it only to hit a roadblock when I fell in love. Luckily, that train wreck of a relationship didn't last, and I spent a couple more years getting my head back around the doing-it-alone thing. Long story short: it is the best thing I have ever done in my life. Go for it! And call or email if you want more front-line information and support (you can get ahold of me through your Lunch Companion).

You are indeed the family member of the Lunch Companion! I'll be sending you an email, probably with a thousand questions...

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    • L.A. 2009. I’m stuck in traffic on the 101 freeway, listening to Isabella Rosselini on NPR. Isabella, for some reason, mentions that starfish are one of those rare species that can reproduce asexually, and I realize that if I could do that, I wouldn't have to worry about finding a boyfriend/husband. I wouldn’t have to internet date! I wouldn't have to figure out if I want to/can/should have a baby/adopt a baby/child on my own. I wouldn't have to stress about things like FSH levels, or weigh my feelings on in vitro versus adoption. I would just have a baby. Thus began my starfish envy.
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