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Good feeling about this one.

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I'm really pulling for you Sarah. Fingers crossed and I have faith that your hard work, commitment and love are going to be rewarded.

As crazy hard as this journey is, not trying everything would have only led to worse questions like "I wonder what would have happened if I had tried this, or that?" This way you know you are giving it your all! Hang in there Sarah and keep trying to remain positive. That's probably the best thing for you right now.

You're not alone in this. Many couples try for more than a yr to get pregnant the regular way without success too. Keep in mind that it's not necessarily that you're going about this differently. If it's meant to happen, it will. We're all hoping for success and keeping you in our thoughts. Good luck.

The NOT KNOWING what will happen has to be brutal. But the only way out is through so you may as well hold your nose and take the plunge. I'll be sending good fertility vibes your way til at least your second trimester!

I know EXACTLY how you feel (as I prepare for IVF #2). It's a really expensive and uncomfortable process, and you'll think a lot about that if it doesn't work. But, if it does work, you won't care what you went through to hold that beautiful baby. Best wishes on a healthy pregnancy on the first try!!!

we're your Enforcers. you are the Sniper. so, Light the Lamp.

Hang in there! You're going to be an absolutely wonderful mom someday!

LOL at jerieb and her hockey terms!! Love it!

Sarah I feel at a loss to say something supportive that someone else hasn't said already. I'm sorry this is taking so long and is such a disappointing process.

I will continue to think positive thoughts for you and also will pray every night for you.

Sending you lots of positive thoughts and sticky vibes. Hoping this cycle is the one for you!

Hey, it might be better to think of this as your first attempt, not the 9th. Totally new process, a nice, bump-free uterus...you really are starting anew. Think of everything else as practice. A mere warm-up. Now, into the game!

Agree with L. New process and a new start leading towards a new baby and a new you! And can we not do that "If it's meant to happen, it will." Man, I hate that saying!!

Sara.. you'll be great! The process is uncomfortable and you won't know until you wake up how many eggs will be retrieved, but really, what's money in the end. (That is what everyone said to me, and it was harder to hear than to type:) Think of it this way, if it fails, you still have the option to try again! Many people like myself, don't even have the choice to sign up twice. NO matter what happens, I look forward to the day our children play, because we will both have those children one way or another!

You KC friend,

Have you done a budget? Decide how much money you will spend before you pull the plug on trying? Whatever the topic is, unless you are committed to trying until you get a result, I am a fan of giving yourself budgets and deadlines. They give you a framework and can be very helpful.

Sarah, I'm almost exactly where you are. Currently doing my 3rd IUI cycle with injectables. If this doesn't work, I'm on to IVF in May or June. It's such a big commitment (of money and energy) and I can barely stand the thought of it not working. But my plan is to try up to three times. Studies show that, if it hasn't happened in three, it's not likely to ever happen. It is almost unbearable imagining getting to that point, and maybe I will feel differently if I get there. But that's what I'm saying right now. But IVF does give the best possible chance of having children with our own eggs. I'm working on being hopeful (and maybe even joyful). I wish the same for you.

i've thought about you over the last couple of days but tempered my normal stream of consciousness due to my mother's 'cateracks' surgery. i am sorry i did not push my children into ophthalmology. *ka-ching*. file that away.
first, when i was trying oh so hard to get pregnant, my husband's brother & his wife announced, at a family function, they were pregnant (again)..didn't really plan to tell before they talked to us...it..just..slipped out. they immediately felt awful although we had THAT beat by a country mile, i knew they did. but, i gave myself permission to be mad, hurt, jealous, hurt, really mad, and really jealous for two whole days. then, with the wallowing complete and out of my system, i emerged to celebrate the wonderful news. i know you are thrilled for your friends. really, truly thrilled but i hope you gave yourself permission to hang up the phone, gather the pooches and have a good cry. it's ok. in fact, it's normal. all of us who have 'been there, have done that'.
second, and most important- my nephew will be 21 in one week but even more important than the most important and da-dahhh: in a little over a month, my boys will be 20. do the math.
i read once, 'never give up on something that you can't go a day without thinking about.'

LOVE that quote Jerie. I think that pretty much says it all.

"Never give up on something that you can't go a day without thinking about."

Print that out and hang it somewhere Sarah!!!

Congratulations on taking the next step! I agree with L-- IVF in general has a much higher chance of success, even more so with your surgery.
As for how far you are willing to go, everyone will have lots of advice, and it is important to remember that you don't have to listen to ANY of it! You can just try out this cycle and hope for the best. If it works out, then great! If it doesn't work out, you are the only person who can decide what you want to do next.

During my whole infertility experience, I have found the boards on Inspire helpful.

I know you have lots of support, but please feel free to contact me if you have any questions. (I have learned some minorly helpful things through my three fresh cycles.)

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